WOMEN in THAILAND
What are they REALLY LIKE?
Thailand Women- Smiling and Beautiful
Thailand women are smiling and beautiful angles until like most women you cross them. I personally have been married to my Thai wife for 37 Years and they have been like all marriages fantastic with moments of confusion and misunderstanding. The language can be the biggest part of the troubles when the parties don’t speak each others languages well.
The Thai cultural differences are actually enormous to a western partner and Thai Partner alike. What many westerners don’t understand is the Thai partner does not know your culture and some things we do in western culture are wholly forbidden in Thai culture.
The first step for both parties is to get some cultural education but its unlikely to happen. When romance is in the air its all about impressing and getting to know your new found partner. This is a great place to start for sure but there is much more to a marriage in Thailand than nice dinners and romantic evenings.
Thai Culture – The Differences are Great!
Thai culture is very different to Western culture. Thailand women in Thailand are so modest and beautiful it can be very frustrating. In personal relationships in Thailand especially the close personal contact of hugging and kissing a partner in Thai Culture is NON EXISTANT. Please take note of this and it will save you a lot of anxiety because all of a sudden your partner wont hold your hand in the village and around their family.
Thai people do not show open emotion generally. All your romantic activities must be kept to behind closed doors. Yes I get it! It’s very different but if your in Thailand and have someone who is special to you then take the time to understand the culture.
Thai culture values a persons head as a special. You should not ever pass anything like food or drinks over someone’s head. You should never sit and point the bottom or should of your feet at any body. This is common obviously if your relaxing and stretching out but if you could remember to point your foot a little when someone walks past and don’t put your feet on the chair in front of you as your should will point at someone and be above their head.
Thai Woman personality Traits
Thailand women personality Traits are just like any woman’s in the world. If you think women in Thailand are any different to women in the rest of the world I’m here to tell you your very wrong.
There seems to be a misnomer that Thailand women a quiet and subservient. I have the feeling that many men at lease since I’m writing from a male point of view probably think this. It’s far from the truth!
I have met many Thailand women that were very intelligent, know what they want and work to get it. Thai women are confident and well educated these days. In the the past this certainly was not true with many older ladies I know from my village telling me how it use to be. The story was the boys needed to join the army so needed to write. Women were to stay in the home and have babies and be the hard working house wife. Don’t need school to do that it was said.
Understanding a Thai Woman
Understanding Thailand Women is as simple as understanding they want like everyone a happy family life. They want to be looked after and loved. Don’t we all desire this. The point is they are no different to anyone else. There’s a theme building here. Can you see it?
Thai woman will marry older western partners. The reason I word it like this is I am very aware of the LGBTQ community. Thai culture does not give people the opportunity to hide if they are gay or lesbian.
Thai culture embraces diversity so if your gay or Lesbian then your partner is also covered by what I write in this post. I know many Thai Gay and Lesbian people. I am surrounded by them in my own street. The language immediately gives away your sexual preference with males most often ending their sentences with “KAR”, the female end to a sentence. Lesbians often still use “Kar” but dress like a male with short hair like a male and male style clothes.
Being a Woman in Thailand
Being a Thailand woman is a hard life. Women generally work hard alongside male family members and get paid less than them. They are expected to also cook and clean even after a day in the field. They generally get up at 5 am in the country to cook Sticky Rice in Northern Thailand where I live. They go to the market and cook all before 8am when they often have breakfast. Then its getting the kids off and in the village I don’t see the men doing a lot to help them.
Men seem to think it they are married for a while to one woman then its fine to have a second wife called a “MAYER NOI”. Its just a cultural thing we do not as westerners always understand. It seems like a status symbol to be able to afford another wife. Violence to women it seems is high in Thailand in my personal experience. I have seen the male attitudes often dominating women.
I know many men that are married that seem to think a girlfriend is an ok thing to have even with a family established. To me its a strange concept but some close to me in my village have been caught out many times venturing from the nest. If you watch any Thai movies its all through them with rich people always have a few wives.
If you have ever seen the King and I with Yul Brenner then you will get the idea. This movie is banned in Thailand so don’t expect to find it there. Its not appreciate how the Thai king Rama IV is portrayed in the movie. Rama V is revered for bringing SIAM to the modern world and never gave up severity to any other country.
Traditional Male and Female Roles in Thailand
Traditional Male and Female roles in Thailand have not been challenged a lot. The glass ceiling to women getting to higher positions is certainly there. Some women have made it through if their families are wealthy.
For a long time women as doctors was not a common theme. Women were seen as the nurses and not the Doctors and roles are still tightly maintained with not that many cracking the glass. The role of the male working and the wife at home is strong and still generally accepted as the norm. The latest generation being even more educated and getting more western influence may make a change to this current norm of social status in Thailand.
Thailand Language Marriage Advantages
Thailand Language is a beautiful language I live in everyday personally. I love speaking it and learning more. Its so gentle and colorful, it has its own character. Learning the Thai language will give you much more of an incite into your partners thinking and the cultural expectations you will experience.
It is the best and most beneficial thing you can do I believe in getting to understand your Thai partner and how they think. The language offers a portal into thinking and culture that you miss without having this amazing tool available to you.
The Thai language opens many aspects like recognizing those who are LGBTQ and being aware of their lives. Knowing how to address family and being respectful with elders and juniors alike because the Thai respects age above all else.
I hope this personal insight into Thailand women is helpful in at lease opening the door to what your going to experience and help you understand that culture and age play a very large part with Thailand women and families.
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